Anger only burns out of control when you’re trying to force a world that doesn’t exist to behave like the one in your head.

It’s a map error. You thought there’d be a bridge, but there’s a canyon. You planned for ease, and got mess. So you explode—not because the path is impassable, but because it wasn’t what you expected.

And that’s the secret: most of the time, anger isn’t about what’s happening. It’s about what you thought would happen, and didn’t.

The moment you let go of what should have been, you stop fighting the terrain. You start walking it.

Anger then becomes clarity. It sharpens. It points. It says, Here. Pay attention here. But only if you’re willing to listen—not react.

So the real move isn’t to stuff the anger or act it out. The move is to check the map. Adjust. Update your expectations. And keep going.